Guess what? I’m frustrated right now. “We know.” you say. “You’re writing a blog post, you must be frustrated.”
Apparently, the new key to dating is “Don’t be yourself.”
Every time I get a recommendation or a friend’s opinion, inevitably, what I want to do is wrong. Or at least, the friend finishes off with, “Well, you can do that. But I don’t think it’s going to work.”
At what point did dating become a gymnastics event in which I bend and contort myself into a random shape to avoid being thrown off the edge of oblivion?
If you’ve never seen this, it is apparently from a Japanese game show where characters do just what I’m saying. Only, in their case, the goal is to win a bunch of money, not some woman’s heart.
So here it is, in black and white (at least on my screen). My Resolution: Never to take dating advice ever again.
You’re right. That doesn’t sound good. I’d better back off. Because when you’re honestly looking for good ideas: favorite restaurant, fun night out, etc. friends, hers and yours can be incredible repositories for advice. Perhaps it must be a bit more nuanced.
My Resolution: Never artificially contort myself for the purpose of being what I think another person wants.
This means no more acting smart, quiet, shy, funny, outgoing, friendly, or serious when that’s all it is: acting.
No more second guessing asking her out, calling her up, texting her, or sending her flowers when it leads to self-doubt.
We’ll see how long that goes.
